Haters Are People Too

Having a thick skin can get you only so far. The next step up is living in the experience. Only then can you learn, grow and help others. So are you ready to love your enemies? No, I mean really love them… Let’s start with the easy ones. People you have no real beef with, we call those haters right? The folks who give you the cold shoulder, talk about you or intentionaly create obsacles even though you have no idea why.

News flash: haters are good for the ego, but that does not apply if you hate back. Hate in and of itself comes from fear and how can fear be good for your ego?

Think about it… There is no valid reason for a person to decide they don’t like you because of your style, personality, physical appearance, the way you talk, or who you slept with last night, etc. As a matter of fact, if people you’ve never harmed decide they don’t like you, it’s actually quite the compliment. Think about it, how many times do you just decide from hearing a person speak, seeing their writings or looking at them that you just don’t like them or are going to set out to stop them (from whatever). The answer is probably rarely or never. Offensive remarks and behavior are sometimes a reason depending on your level of sensitivity, and morality (not ethics) but most of us get passed the initial offense even to the point of concern and/or curiosity.

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Feelings of hate have to derive from a place of strong energy. Hate just like love is an action; an active emotion that causes behavioral changes. There is a focus and drive to the anger, otherwise it would not last. Often times even the feelings of dislike towards those who have offended you don’t last long, unless you’re one who holds a grudge (check yourself, but that’s a different blog); most times forgetting what the conflict was about.

So it only stands to reason, that when someone has very strong feelings towards you that are negative without provocation, they must come from a place of fear. People who like being in control are threatened when the control is at risk. This is true even if you’re not a hater. Those of us who know this make efforts to maintain faith and positivity so we have no bondage to threats, perceived or real. If you are not afraid of the one threatening you then you are less likely to be angry towards or hate the person.

Why should you care? Because you can’t be an effective leader, change agent, social entrepreneur, motivator, minister, teacher, coach, etc. if you draw the line at insecure people who have so little faith that they fear you. Those are the ones we should be chasing down and targeting… Not just the easy marks.

That’s Living Sugar Free!

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Humility is not driven by human opinion

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Lesson in love, peace and the Law of Attraction.

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It goes both ways. When you step to someone because they have an opinion about something and tell them to live and let live… it is you who needs the lesson most.

In case you don’t know me, haven’t been paying attention or are just clueless; let me spell it out for you. If you didn’t notice before now… I am true to myself, my brand and my beliefs (not anyone else’s).

Soooo… don’t get too worked up, preachy or judgemental about anything I say.
A. I don’t care what you think about me.
B. I am consistently teaching in my lane.
C. Apparently I’m a jokster and everything I say has a comedic edge (I don’t try, didn’t plan it, it just is).

If you take the way I say something negatively, you probably should just decide not to listen rather than trying to coach me on how to be more like you. I’m only going to laugh you out. I probably don’t like you anyway and am certainly not trying to be like anyone else.

For the haters, before you even ask: Yes it’s Sunday. Yes I love the Lord. Yes I’m grateful and humble. No I’m not mad at you.

There it is.

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Holler’s Disease is simply described, in his words, “Being yourself is awesome, but a whole bunch of people being themselves then seeing how that can work together? Well, that’s about as good as it gets!”

This is a euphoric state of being “blissfully ignorant of anyone pretending to be someone else. Too happy, productive and prosperous to care.” It’s becoming an epidemic.

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