Haters Are People Too

Having a thick skin can get you only so far. The next step up is living in the experience. Only then can you learn, grow and help others. So are you ready to love your enemies? No, I mean really love them… Let’s start with the easy ones. People you have no real beef with, we call those haters right? The folks who give you the cold shoulder, talk about you or intentionaly create obsacles even though you have no idea why.

News flash: haters are good for the ego, but that does not apply if you hate back. Hate in and of itself comes from fear and how can fear be good for your ego?

Think about it… There is no valid reason for a person to decide they don’t like you because of your style, personality, physical appearance, the way you talk, or who you slept with last night, etc. As a matter of fact, if people you’ve never harmed decide they don’t like you, it’s actually quite the compliment. Think about it, how many times do you just decide from hearing a person speak, seeing their writings or looking at them that you just don’t like them or are going to set out to stop them (from whatever). The answer is probably rarely or never. Offensive remarks and behavior are sometimes a reason depending on your level of sensitivity, and morality (not ethics) but most of us get passed the initial offense even to the point of concern and/or curiosity.

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Need help walking in love?


Feelings of hate have to derive from a place of strong energy. Hate just like love is an action; an active emotion that causes behavioral changes. There is a focus and drive to the anger, otherwise it would not last. Often times even the feelings of dislike towards those who have offended you don’t last long, unless you’re one who holds a grudge (check yourself, but that’s a different blog); most times forgetting what the conflict was about.

So it only stands to reason, that when someone has very strong feelings towards you that are negative without provocation, they must come from a place of fear. People who like being in control are threatened when the control is at risk. This is true even if you’re not a hater. Those of us who know this make efforts to maintain faith and positivity so we have no bondage to threats, perceived or real. If you are not afraid of the one threatening you then you are less likely to be angry towards or hate the person.

Why should you care? Because you can’t be an effective leader, change agent, social entrepreneur, motivator, minister, teacher, coach, etc. if you draw the line at insecure people who have so little faith that they fear you. Those are the ones we should be chasing down and targeting… Not just the easy marks.

That’s Living Sugar Free!

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I Don’t Do Peer Pressure

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When I was growing up my mom used to ask, “if five of your friends jump off a bridge are you going to follow?”

My answer was, is and always will be, HECK NAW!!!

If you’re going to protect your children from bullying, first you have to protect them from themselves…
By helping them to be free from the opinions of others…
Including yours…
Many won’t receive this..

It is by practicing the art of impressing you and others, that your children become subject to clicks and the fear of not being in the right one… as well as the art of manipulation to manage those easily swayed opinions.

Bully’s are powerless against people who don’t care about impressing them or others.

If they are free from the opinions of people, your children won’t be afraid to stand up for themselves; they won’t be too embarrased to tell an adult; and they won’t feel humiliated in public when bullys try to ostracize them.

If you think that adults aren’t playing the very same games as children, think again.

Look around, who are you trying to impress?

Your children are watching.

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Has technology killed the conversation?

I don’t think so. If anything technology has expanded conversations in various areas and aspects.

What part does psychology play in social media planning? What are the other components of a good marketing plan? Can social media play a positive role in mental health? This is the beginning of my curiosity, who knows where it will take us.

Click the link below to review a great article from The Phoenix Focus where the author begins to explore social media in relation to communications, humanities and social psychology.

http://www.phoenixfocus.com/2011-10/technology-killed-conversation/?utm_source=pf_email_october&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=c-faculty

Are You Ever Stuck on Stupid?

Have you ever been guilty of being stuck on stupid? I mean someone has to be the culprit. Who are these people that everyone is always talking about? I often think I’m talking to “they” and it turns out I’m talking to “them.” Are you stupid or the snob who’s always calling others stupid? Or both…I submit at times everyone has been the dork at the light waiting for a different shade of green, and the jerk laying on their horn.

Let’s work on patience as a society. We can deal with differences as long as we are patient.

Andrea Raquel
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