Who Can I Relate To On TV?

Well there’s not any characters I identify with who look like me (my sister says it’s Huey on Boondocks, but that’s a cartoon). Let’s just say I’d like to make all business associates, family members and every potential suitor sit through marathons of Bones, Criminal Minds and Big Bang Theory… With the following instructions:

Please write a one page summary of each of my three favorite characters. Explain what you do and don’t like about each one and if you think you could work well with them. What is special about them and what is annoying? Why? How would you handle each scenario you find annoying? What would you add to or do to help enrich their lives, make them feel comfortable and help them succeed?

This would be a fun exercise… But in reality, these characteristics look very different on a black female and are not at all received well by black men (not that I limit myself, I think all peoples are beautiful, but that is my culture and experience). I might be in trouble with some folks merely for having the audacity to say I identify only with three white characters who hold multiple PhD’s. But they may not know, I will have my first one soon and I’ve always lived in diverse areas (and by diverse I mean I was often the only Afro-American).

This is where our similarities split; the upbringing of a brown skinned female with these traits is not one that people celebrate, encourage or ever think will amount to anything. No one tested me for genius and I only found out that I am high on the spectrum for Apergers at the age of 42. I’ve been to 6 colleges and every one led to financial troubles, including the one I attended while working full time as a Bank Manager, and graduated from, Magna Cume Laude.

Now that I have been officially diagnosed (I’ve known since I knew what Asperger was), I function even better… But the hard times, bullying, criticism, and lack of understanding hurts worse. I never expected anyone to care before. Now it’s like there’s some false sense of special needs consideration, which really only applies to people who are disfigured or visibly disabled, that everyone says exists but really doesn’t… Unless you want to walk around looking pitiful and reminding people evrytime they trample all over your personal space, quiet time, privacy and even basic human rights.

How do you feel about these characters? Would you see Bones the same if she wasn’t white? Would Sheldon be as popular if he were female. Would Reid be as adorable if he were a brown skinned woman with untamed, natural, curly hair?

If these folks weren’t PhD’s do you think they would be able to get hired and maintain a career? Would they function well in corporate 9-5, manual labor, in a box, not using their gifts or just taking orders?

Next time you have a conflict with someone who reminds you of one of these characters, consider how high their IQ is, how hard they are trying to make you feel comfortable and that they really can’t help your perceived lack of social etiquette.

[Character Info from Wikipedia.com]

Dr. Temperance Brennan

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Throughout the course of the series, Brennan is portrayed as a straightforward, brilliant anthropologist, who lacks social skills. Her social ineptitude is especially apparent when it comes to sarcasm, metaphors which she often interprets literally, and pop culture jokes and is often the source of comedy in the show. An example of this is when she mistakes Colin Farrell for Will Ferrell.

Dr. Spencer Reid

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As is characteristic of people with Asperger’s Syndrome, Reid is socially awkward. He often fixates on things (prompting Morgan and other team members to have to tell him to be quiet), and misses social cues at times (for example, unknowingly changing the subject of a conversation). The Unknown Subject (“UnSub”) in “Broken Mirror” noted this, and Gubler stated in an interview in the show’s second season “[Reid]’s an eccentric genius, with hints of schizophrenia and minor autism, Asperger’s Syndrome. Reid is 30 years old with three Ph.D.s and one can not usually achieve that without some form of autism.” Writer Sharon Lee Watson stated in a twitter chat Reid’s Asperger traits makes the character more lovable.

Dr. Sheldon Cooper

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Sheldon is a theoretical physicist at Caltech who shares an apartment with his colleague and best friend, Leonard Hofstadter (Johnny Galecki). He is a former child prodigy with genius level IQ, but displays an almost total lack of social skills, a tenuous understanding of humor, and difficulty recognizing irony and sarcasm in other people, although he himself often employs them. He exhibits highly idiosyncratic and narcissistic behavior and a general lack of humility or empathy. These characteristics provide the majority of the humor involving him, which has caused him to be described as the show’s breakout character.Despite speculation that Sheldon’s personality traits may be consistent with Asperger syndrome, obsessive–compulsive personality disorder and asexuality, co-creator Bill Prady has repeatedly stated that Sheldon’s character was neither conceived nor developed with regard to any of these traits.

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Walmart #ScamAlert #FDIC

Don’t fall for @Walmart’s scam, advertising a black card. They take your money without telling you that you can’t get cash for 2 weeks until your permanent card arrives.

But the real question is why are they not telling you that when they sign you up. Yeah yeah, we I know about the fine print. But how many of my clients do you think read and/or understand the fine print. Then the customer service agent who barely speaks English has to put you on hold 10 times to explain that to you. Wait, there’s more.

When the manager who also speaks poor English gets on the line…
1. He asks what the you need the cash for.
2. Then he proceeds to educate you that all temporary debit cards issued in the US right now have a stipulation that doesn’t allow cash withdrawals.

Huh??? That’s when I lost it and took the phone. Now he wants to escalate after we explained the nice little advertisement we’d be posting to help them out.

A debit card means you can can withdraw, but that’s not what this is. This is you investing in Walmart and helping them build interest, plain and simple.

Don’t fall for companies who pretend to be helping the masses. They are not! You may as well deal with a bank, which is FDIC insured and can’t pull a fast one. Highly disappointed in Wally World. I will not shop there again in spite of the fact that it is the closest store to my house.

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Talking Over Your Own Head | You Might Be A PorchMonkey

From #LivingSugarFree

If you don’t understand marketing or business in general, let me help you.
Either play along for the sake of discussion, be supportive, ad value, or keep your mouth shut and avoid looking like a fool…
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#LivingSugarFree How Do You Become The Person You Were Meant To Be?

I know this is a phrase you’re used to seeing a lot in self help marketing ads: “become the person you were meant to be…”

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News flash: This statement implies destiny.

If you believe in destiny than you know that God knows you, where you are and where you are going. If you don’t believe in destiny than you shouldn’t be looking for anything that was meant to be and should be okay with just being.

I am here to tell you, you are already the person you were meant to be, as will you be 10 years from now when you evolve and grow more.

You don’t need to become anyone… you just need to tell the person you are to get up and do something with what you have right now! Only then will you feel like you are the person you were meant to be.

If you wait for some major change, before you take action, you will never see who you are meant to be.

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#LivingSugarFree Never Been Big On Popularity Contests

I caught this recent Mashable article about Klout on Twitter “How to Improve Your Klout Score — and Why You Should Bother

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News flash:
Being mindful of your influence is not the same as being mindful of a an external score. There are multiple ways to determine quality influence. In the old days we just did surveys… oh wait, there’s an app for that. If all you care about is numbers… and you don’t really care what your audience is gaining from you,  or who is growing, surviving and touching others because of you, I can’t help you.

How do I know the scores and the websites they are based on are flawed? Because I’m a researcher and I pay attention and get to the heart of a matter without being emotional. I watch, I ask and I listen… imagine that as a concept.

Now I get on my Social Entrepreneur soapbox…
To focus on comparison ratings is to worry about someone elses success. Yes it’s nice to be the top ranked blahbedyblah. Been there done that, got the t-shirt.

Ultimately you are your only competition. If you capture your market, generate prophets and/or change lives (based on your goals)… who cares what the next person is doing with their influence? We all have it. It’s a matter of what you do with it.

Now I put on my Sugar Free Coaching hat…
In every industry and for every generation, there are private companies that rate other companies. Just like some businesses suck, some ratings companies that score businesses also suck.

The BBB, which used to be a commercial staple in the US,  comes to mind. I was utterly disgusted when I found out you could buy your score. I’ve seen similar practices with some somedia companies and I’m over it.

Bottom line is, I don’t need a company that doesn’t understand me or my audience, to tell me I’m good. I can ask my family, friends, leaders, fans and clients directly. Why? Because they are all brilliant. Like minds think alike and attract other like minds and so on. Further more, giving good service and quality value add is personal to the consumer. Quality relationships are not to be measured by a computer without first at least asking the consumers vs. only people who use said rating company.

Everytime, I think I’m finished with this, an additional point surfaces…

Yes netiquette is important, as in “on ground” (vs. real life which some folks mistake for the opposite of online). You have to respect others (or don’t and experience the repurcussions). But outside of that, I can’t tell you how to be you. Your somedia activity is not going to look like mine, nor should it.

Sooo… I’m sorry social media friends. I call B.S.!!

You might want to dig a little deeper into your brand, if you plan to stick around for the long haul. If your whole vision is about rating the traffic on these very flawed mediums… you need to find another value add. Marketing is a very miniscule part of the formula to successful business and Social Media is an even smaller part of Marketing… this is still true for the somedia business.

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#LivingSugarFree online vs ground time

Offline poster from my nephews folder.

We like these in ground time too. How we live offline is how we live online… to a certain extent. This is an offline graphic from my nephews folder.

Pondering the humor in that folks think everything is a #SocialMedia trend. Humans do the same things #online that they do in #groundtime.

When you do something in ground time and no one knows; you magnify by posting online.

If a tree falls in the forest and no one heard it, don’t post it on Facebook if you don’t want it magnified and exploited.

Furthermore Facebook does not have a 911 feature. When posting, chances that you will reach a paramedic, fireman, police officer or life coach are slim to none. If you’re posting to Facebook instead of dialing 911, the ER or your therapist, you are in the wrong dimension.

Contributors: Denise, Madison, James, Ezra and Thomas Pooser.

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Today Is a Good Day

Today  Is A Good Day

What will you do different today?

Today is a good day to set the tone for the rest of your week, your month and your year.

Start the week off right by doing a little audit (don’t be obsessive or dismissive any little bit makes a difference):

  1. Clean off your desk (organize things that require follow up).
  2. Shred the junk (clean out snail mail, email and notification boxes).
  3. Check your social media connections and links on your website.
  4. Respond to messages and post (flag messages that require follow up).
  5. Say thanks to top engagers, partners, employees, new clients, etc.

Many people don’t like Monday’s because of the workload and drudgery ahead for the week; and/or because everyone’s in a bad mood because they didn’t end last week on a good note and they are faced with last weeks problems.

If you check in on a good note on Monday… then end Friday with your next week’s to-do list, everything in between will be more manageable. This is not to say that you won’t get thrown any curve balls… when you plan your work and work your plan, you are more mentally equipped to deal with the unexpected, both good and bad.

*Notice the activities listed are to be done in spite of your method of communication, to include (office space, cloud space, and mobile space) paper, emails, websites, phone, online networks, and etc. No excuses!