Lead Follow or Get Out of The Way | Living Sugar Free

Yep, I said it, and before you say Amen, I’m probably talking to you too…

Stereotypes about women, lies about history and biology, blatant porn, jokes on nationalities, racial remarks about the POTUS or anyone, oh and passive aggressive folks who get an attitude and say all manner of nastiness when anyone has the audacity to point it out… Or worse you got an attitude and said outloud you don’t see why we need Black History Month. As long as you don’t say the n word you’re good right? Wrong!!!
Somedia is out of control, but who’s leading the way?????

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S.H.E. Opportunity Killers

Oh you like that title, huh? Yes, I know I’m clever 😉 Spite, Hate and Envy are terrible joy stealers, relationship destroyers, and opportunity killers.

I’m a psychology researcher, coach, mentor and advisor…  unintentional kindling the hate fire is what I do, it is my weirdness. I call it hater aiding 😀 But there’s a fine line. When you say something profound, do something really great or really smart or accomplish something and then you celebrate really big and care about the fact that it makes the people who are jealous more frustrated. That’s pretty much the same thing as “watching them squirm” and shouldn’t really be motivation; but hey I understand that we’re human. I’m not saying what anyone should or shouldn’t do; I’m just offering a perspective that may help with easing some of that frustration.

Have you ever become friends with your neighborhood bully, the boss nobody liked or someone that was hating on you? It’s an interesting test of patience, forgiveness and leadership. How much more to serve them? I do it everyday. The key for me is remembering my why. The Bible says if I do it for them I have my reward, that’s whether I’m getting accolades or hate. I have been delivered from the opinions of people, truly. That is why I can laugh at it, discuss it and yes help others overcome. We throw around “to each his own” but what about live and let live?… even for the hater. I can’t stress the importance of being open to discussion, and not being quick to ignore people who are in your network. Now saying you aren’t going to associate with someone because they did something is not the same as saying you are going to ignore them because of their personality or feelings towards you. I don’t have to be around you, but if I’m going to be around you I can’t ignore you because that would be rude on my part and who’s to say you deserve that.

Anybody know what the Socratic Method is??? If I tell you what I want you to think, I’m being controlling. If I ask you a series of questions to make you reveal to yourself that what you are saying is not logical, than you gained the information on your own. I find it to be quite helpful when dealing with haters, and other folks who are not on the same page. “Haters” we toss that term around a lot, and I’m a jokester so I make light of serious social issues. But ultimately all humans have the capacity for jealousy, envy and spite. Most do it more often when no one is looking. The problem with social media is that often people forget that someone is always looking. So even ignoring someone is an action. Life is 20% what happens to me and 80% how I respond to it. How I respond to the hater is always going to be bigger than how I perceive the hater treated me. So why ignore them and why not just choose your network and online and off more wisely. Therefore you don’t have people in your circles that are blatantly prejudice,  mean, derailing, selfish and sabotaging… these are action words whereas hatred, jealousy, and envy are feeling words and subject to opinion. That is what we all agree haters are, right? Everyone that I might think is hating on me, is not necessarily. Sometimes they just have hang ups. The point is, who am I to be rude, disrespectful or less than myself to the hater. I never know why God may have brought me into their life.

#TXNL is a pretty big online network, even if you only count active fans and subscribers… I only have 400 FB friends and the majority is family, classmates, and coworkers from past jobs. I literally know almost everyone in person or via phone. It allows me to be accessible to my entire network on a schedule and limited to our online spaces. I can share content when I want and support members when I have time. I’m very good at managing my time and resources.

You’d be surprised at some of the online secrets I’ve learned. For example, I use to create Facebook groups from my fan page and then add the friends from my friend wall. That allows me to post as my page and so people notice my page more from the large groups we have. Well before lots of folks could catch on to that trick, Facebook shut it down. I think maybe it was a glitch. They will probably offer it as a paid service to pages. LOL!!!

Anywho. My point is that, y’all don’t have to like me, I love you. If you disrespect me with your actions I will let you know because maybe you are unaware, uneducated, unskilled, uncivilized and etc. That’s what leaders do, and I come from a good stock, breeding and training of great leaders so it’s ingrained in me to teach. The teacher, leader, actress, singer, speaker, comedian, preacher, remember I’m the coaches coach, doesn’t have time to be mad about their haters. But intentionally setting out to be rude? I may have deleted someone from my FB friend list. But if they follow me on Twitter I will follow back and if they tweet me I will say thank you. Doesn’t mean I’m hanging out with them for dinner. But guess what if they ask me, I will have to consider. As long as they don’t mind my sugar free way of letting them know they are being disrespectful. I’m perfectly okay with giving them the benefit of the doubt that they were not hating.

If you choose to ignore good sense, via any social platform I will unfollow and disengage because I don’t endorse foolishness. Oh, I’ve seen it all, the motivational speaker who was nasty and insulting to me, the coach who only wanted to take everyone’s money, the person who was trying to push their agenda, the con artist, etc. If I know you I will not publicly ignore you, heckle you, or try to embarrass you, like I don’t know you just because I think you are a hater, or rude or weird… that could go for any of us based on a judgement call.

Like I said, live and let live… may God use me to bless my haters too.

Talking Over Your Own Head | You Might Be A PorchMonkey

From #LivingSugarFree

If you don’t understand marketing or business in general, let me help you.
Either play along for the sake of discussion, be supportive, ad value, or keep your mouth shut and avoid looking like a fool…
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#LivingSugarFree online vs ground time

Offline poster from my nephews folder.

We like these in ground time too. How we live offline is how we live online… to a certain extent. This is an offline graphic from my nephews folder.

Pondering the humor in that folks think everything is a #SocialMedia trend. Humans do the same things #online that they do in #groundtime.

When you do something in ground time and no one knows; you magnify by posting online.

If a tree falls in the forest and no one heard it, don’t post it on Facebook if you don’t want it magnified and exploited.

Furthermore Facebook does not have a 911 feature. When posting, chances that you will reach a paramedic, fireman, police officer or life coach are slim to none. If you’re posting to Facebook instead of dialing 911, the ER or your therapist, you are in the wrong dimension.

Contributors: Denise, Madison, James, Ezra and Thomas Pooser.

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Marketing: The Basics | You Shouldn’t Have To Pay For The Easy Stuff

#LivingSugarFree #TXNL #Marketing101

Before you read the rest of this, you should have done a few things. If not, that’s the hard stuff you can pay me to help you fix. Here is the duh of being a good brand:

Sell what you believe.
Be transparent
Live your brand
Put your opinions behind your marketing.

A bird in the hand is not worth two in the bush. If you disagree, you probably can’t afford my rate, so don’t judge value based on cost. Working for skills, collaboration, promotion and/or a good cause is not the same as working for free. I always go above and beyond, so what’s a  paycheck?

If you don’t get this, I’m not likely to work for you anyway…

My point is, when you get caught up, your brand and therefore your profits get held up.

Hellloooo… is this thing on???

Seriously, I don’t talk to hear myself. I share the things I have studied, am degreed in, researched, tested, made money with, and proven. If I don’t know about it I don’t talk about it, unless it’s in the form of a question.

I am The Social Entrepreneur on behalf of #TXNL, @SugarFreeCoach #LivingSugarFree in every area of my life. I’m not perfect, I’m not a fanatic, but I am the brand… because the brand is me. That means when you LIKE, subscribe, follow and share, you know exactly what you are getting. It also means I don’t have to try and maintain it, it just is.

Do you know anyone who seems to have Somedia Split Personality? I don’t mean they are diverse, or that they are sharing various aspects such as business, politics, religion, health. I mean they jump on one band wagon today, a different one tomorrow and next week they are a Guru of how to market or be a leader. It’s just not believable and that’s why they think they have to be agressive in their marketing. Essentially they may have dollars to throw, or even popularity, but they have no real attraction and collaboration. Then if they do get clients, they don’t connect and become invaluable to them.

Social Media sharing is word of mouth Marketing. You can only force it, fake it or pay for it so long, before it catches up to you.

Immediate steps to take:
Focus on your brand not being popular.
Invest time in your brand.
Remember quality over quantity, in every word you say to your audience.
If you have to ask how to get more traffic, you’re focused on the wrong thing.
Be loyal to your clients and/or fan base… and know the difference.

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Spam, Scams and Autoresponders | Keep Calm They Aren’t All The Same

Marketing Guru’s this post is not for you, unless you suck.

#LivingSugarFree #LeaveAMessage

I’ve heard one too many decent marketing ideas being called scams because they’re new and inventive; posts on Facebook being treated like spam because they’re too good; and last but certainly not least the overused autoresponder which makes everything look like a scam.

Now let’s be clear, of the three things mentioned in the title, only one is illegal and harmful to consumers. The other two are just annoying and harmful to suckers looking to get rich quick or thinking they can get something for nothing. Many great opportunities are promoted through spammy techniques and many honest folks are using autoresponders.

Listen and listen good, pop up ads are neither ilegal nor harmful unless you fall for ads easily. You don’t get to complain about how the free services you use are making money by using ads. Duh, it’s free and you are a jerk for thinking they shouldn’t get paid and for bad mouthing an otherwise great service because of ads (you want something for nothing).

Now if you don’t have any real business you may have time to sit at the computer all day. But many business people do not. Somedia is to help us duplicate our efforts; be in multiple places at one time; and generate revenue even while sleeping. This is the purpose and benefit of the auto responder. It is not a bad thing in itself… just like email and snail mail. It’s the excessive use that is annoying and of course, like everything, is sometimes used by corrupt individuals.

I autoreply to new followers on Twitter @SugarFreeCoach because I hate spam and fake tweeps and I also use Unfollowers.me to show me the fakers and gamers… but also to be sure I don’t miss the chance to say thanks to my new peeps and follow back. Expecting me not to make use of the autoresponder tool would be like expecting me to get rid of my voicemail and if you know me, you know that ain’t happening!

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Guess What Day It Is… #Humpday

#LivingSugarFree #HumpdayShift

Humpday is not just a fun shout out on Twitter and a cute ref. for a camel. It’s also more than an American English term, affectionately used to refer to “Wednesday” because it is half-way to Friday.

Wednesday is a great day to refocus and improve your outlook, no matter what your industry, trade, or employment status. Maybe Monday didn’t go so well for you (possibly because you or people around you were busy complaining about how much Mondays suck). For many folks, Wednesdays will be no better.

The energy on Wednesday is much more positive. So use this to finish the week strong. Self check, re-evaluate, adjust your strategy, tidy up, do whatever is necessary to kick your attitude, performance, and productivity into high gear. Finishing strong on Friday, with the right attitude can only improve your Monday.

Then you too will be shouting, “uh oh guess what day it is” with the Geico Camel, on Wednesdays, Mondays, Tuesdays and every other day of the week.

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