Who Can I Relate To On TV?

Well there’s not any characters I identify with who look like me (my sister says it’s Huey on Boondocks, but that’s a cartoon). Let’s just say I’d like to make all business associates, family members and every potential suitor sit through marathons of Bones, Criminal Minds and Big Bang Theory… With the following instructions:

Please write a one page summary of each of my three favorite characters. Explain what you do and don’t like about each one and if you think you could work well with them. What is special about them and what is annoying? Why? How would you handle each scenario you find annoying? What would you add to or do to help enrich their lives, make them feel comfortable and help them succeed?

This would be a fun exercise… But in reality, these characteristics look very different on a black female and are not at all received well by black men (not that I limit myself, I think all peoples are beautiful, but that is my culture and experience). I might be in trouble with some folks merely for having the audacity to say I identify only with three white characters who hold multiple PhD’s. But they may not know, I will have my first one soon and I’ve always lived in diverse areas (and by diverse I mean I was often the only Afro-American).

This is where our similarities split; the upbringing of a brown skinned female with these traits is not one that people celebrate, encourage or ever think will amount to anything. No one tested me for genius and I only found out that I am high on the spectrum for Apergers at the age of 42. I’ve been to 6 colleges and every one led to financial troubles, including the one I attended while working full time as a Bank Manager, and graduated from, Magna Cume Laude.

Now that I have been officially diagnosed (I’ve known since I knew what Asperger was), I function even better… But the hard times, bullying, criticism, and lack of understanding hurts worse. I never expected anyone to care before. Now it’s like there’s some false sense of special needs consideration, which really only applies to people who are disfigured or visibly disabled, that everyone says exists but really doesn’t… Unless you want to walk around looking pitiful and reminding people evrytime they trample all over your personal space, quiet time, privacy and even basic human rights.

How do you feel about these characters? Would you see Bones the same if she wasn’t white? Would Sheldon be as popular if he were female. Would Reid be as adorable if he were a brown skinned woman with untamed, natural, curly hair?

If these folks weren’t PhD’s do you think they would be able to get hired and maintain a career? Would they function well in corporate 9-5, manual labor, in a box, not using their gifts or just taking orders?

Next time you have a conflict with someone who reminds you of one of these characters, consider how high their IQ is, how hard they are trying to make you feel comfortable and that they really can’t help your perceived lack of social etiquette.

[Character Info from Wikipedia.com]

Dr. Temperance Brennan


Throughout the course of the series, Brennan is portrayed as a straightforward, brilliant anthropologist, who lacks social skills. Her social ineptitude is especially apparent when it comes to sarcasm, metaphors which she often interprets literally, and pop culture jokes and is often the source of comedy in the show. An example of this is when she mistakes Colin Farrell for Will Ferrell.

Dr. Spencer Reid


As is characteristic of people with Asperger’s Syndrome, Reid is socially awkward. He often fixates on things (prompting Morgan and other team members to have to tell him to be quiet), and misses social cues at times (for example, unknowingly changing the subject of a conversation). The Unknown Subject (“UnSub”) in “Broken Mirror” noted this, and Gubler stated in an interview in the show’s second season “[Reid]’s an eccentric genius, with hints of schizophrenia and minor autism, Asperger’s Syndrome. Reid is 30 years old with three Ph.D.s and one can not usually achieve that without some form of autism.” Writer Sharon Lee Watson stated in a twitter chat Reid’s Asperger traits makes the character more lovable.

Dr. Sheldon Cooper


Sheldon is a theoretical physicist at Caltech who shares an apartment with his colleague and best friend, Leonard Hofstadter (Johnny Galecki). He is a former child prodigy with genius level IQ, but displays an almost total lack of social skills, a tenuous understanding of humor, and difficulty recognizing irony and sarcasm in other people, although he himself often employs them. He exhibits highly idiosyncratic and narcissistic behavior and a general lack of humility or empathy. These characteristics provide the majority of the humor involving him, which has caused him to be described as the show’s breakout character.Despite speculation that Sheldon’s personality traits may be consistent with Asperger syndrome, obsessive–compulsive personality disorder and asexuality, co-creator Bill Prady has repeatedly stated that Sheldon’s character was neither conceived nor developed with regard to any of these traits.

Huey Freeman

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#LivingSugarFree How Do You Become The Person You Were Meant To Be?

I know this is a phrase you’re used to seeing a lot in self help marketing ads: “become the person you were meant to be…”


News flash: This statement implies destiny.

If you believe in destiny than you know that God knows you, where you are and where you are going. If you don’t believe in destiny than you shouldn’t be looking for anything that was meant to be and should be okay with just being.

I am here to tell you, you are already the person you were meant to be, as will you be 10 years from now when you evolve and grow more.

You don’t need to become anyone… you just need to tell the person you are to get up and do something with what you have right now! Only then will you feel like you are the person you were meant to be.

If you wait for some major change, before you take action, you will never see who you are meant to be.

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Do you know Brian Holler? If not, you should.

Catch Holler's Disease

Catch Holler’s Disease

I can’t get enough of this guy, therefore I have decided that I have Holler’s Disease and you should get it too.

Holler’s Disease is simply described, in his words, “Being yourself is awesome, but a whole bunch of people being themselves then seeing how that can work together? Well, that’s about as good as it gets!”

This is a euphoric state of being “blissfully ignorant of anyone pretending to be someone else. Too happy, productive and prosperous to care.” It’s becoming an epidemic.

There is no cure for this disease, and why would you want one. To continue this path of positivity and success click LIKE, share and RT Brian Holler at least once a day. You will be in very good company.

Satire of a Facebook conversation, but seriously you need this guy in your life.

Holler’s Disease

Happy Friday darlings!!!
Did you finish the week strong? Get everything you wanted? Accomplish all your goals?
No, what???!!!!

😀 That’s ok, me either.

Remember success is a journey
And guess what, you’re closer to goals than you  were last week because you gave it your all…
You did give it your all right? No????

😀 That’s ok too.

Eliminate “try” from your vocabulary and your mind.
Then  you will give your all and appreciate your own efforts more.

Also plan your Monday today and leave your unfinished tasks on paper, not in your psyche.

Then, go have a relaxing and fun weekend.
You deserve it!

Don’t forget to take some time for reflection and gratitude.

Friday Remedies

Influence, Klout, PeerIndex, TweetGrader, Is It All Useless?

I was going to comment on this article, but then I realized I had too much to say…

I studied Marketing in undergraduate school and am now studying Psychology. The article is very informative and accurate; however it is limiting. Marketing is only one aspect of business and Social Media is only one aspect of Marketing. A good business strategy must include these elements and many others, working together to achieve the mission and vision of the business. The bottom line is not achieved only by one division but by them all collaborating and sharing information and resources.

I have seen and heard a lot of really negative conversation about the worthlessness of online reporting sites, and social media as a whole for small businesses. Transactional and bottom-line oriented perspectives are important to the whole, but when they exclude other more holistic approaches then they are flawed. Regardless of your religion, philosophies or methods, if you have business experience then you must recognize referral, relational, and reciprocal marketing. You may not close a deal directly from one lead; but it can indirectly affect other business, build moral, drive culture, reduce shrink and even strengthen a team which will lead to increased revenue.

The online influence measurement tools give a good look at who you are influencing online, what they are reading, and who else they are following. This information is invaluable for someone who knows what to do with it. I don’t mind that online reporting companies have additional ways to make money, market their business and make it fun for users that are not as serious about the information as I am. This is done offline all the time by credit bureaus, marketing firms and even government agencies.

It’s almost as though the big players in social media are trying to convince the novices not to support the start ups. Hmm, nah that would never happen. Well what they aren’t telling you is that large corporations are fully on board with the influence reporting sites and even using them to drive more traffic to their sites, launch new products and drive sales with discount offers. So if it’s good for them, why not you? But if you don’t get on board now, you won’t have a high enough score to use these exclusive features.

Don’t believe me? I can show you no less than 10 offers that I’ve been able to participate in as a business because of my influence. Not just free tickets, but also the ability to make edits to sites that others can’t, invite people to new programs that are closed and market myself at events that others have to pay for. How is that not real value? Well I guess it’s not if you don’t have the additional tools you need to capitalize or monetize these benefits right? Wrong! Does every need have to be met from a transactional contract? No! There are psychological contracts that are transacted everyday online and off.

One invaluable piece of information I have learned from companies such as Klout, PeerIndex, TweetGrader, and even the reports done by Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter opens up a whole new area of business for me. Maybe this is the that, which makes me unique, but feel free to use it. Most importantly these sites show me the technical literacy of my natural audience. I am able to see who is missing key areas of opportunity when they want to expand their business. I am able to accurately see how many people in my network (clients, sphere of influence, potential clients, customers, and volunteers) are really functioning online.

It’s not the reporting companies responsibility to know that or show you what to do with it. It’s mine. So if you still have not figured out how to translate your online influence into real world solutions, give me a call. I will be happy to show you… for a small fee of course.

I’m Andrea Raquel, The Social Entrepreneur and I can help you make sense of it all.

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